I've begun thinking about number 2. No, not poo. Although that is always a popular topic around here, the Critter's bowel functioning. No, I mean making the Critter Girl a big sister.
Honestly, it has been on my mind since AF showed up again, although we all know that she has nothing at all to do with getting a number 2. Harharhar.
As you may recall (what? you don't know all my reproductive stats off the top of your head? shame...) we have 3 more frozen euploid embabies waiting for us at the far away clinic. I know we want at least 2...so that's as far as we've thought about the remaining three. First things first, right?
So...when to transfer again? I waiver back and forth on this. And let me preface this whole thought process by saying I am in complete denial of the possibility that a FET won't work. It will work. On the first try. Yeah, yeah, I know. Just humor me.
In some ways I want to transfer around the Critter's first birthday, so they'd be 18-ish months apart. But then I think why rush? Wouldn't it be better for the Critter to be a bit older? Able to talk better, to go to preschool? More like 24-28 months apart?
It's like this - do I just suck it up now and get this whole thing (injections, transfer, pregnancy) over with sooner than later? Does it matter that much anymore that I'm getting older? I turn 39 in Feb 2012...does this matter anymore? Those blasts were made with 36 year old eggs, that's not changing. I guess it matters to my energy level, but will 6 or 9 months make a real difference?
And if we do want more than 2...should I go quicker now? Should that matter in planning number 2, thinking about a maybe number 3?
So many questions...a lot of uncertainty. What say you, wise interwebbies? I'd love to hear your thoughts on spacing, on planning number 2.
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1 day ago
How exciting! From my perspective I'd shoot for the 18 months because then you have time to try again. If you wait until 24 months and then have lots and lots of trouble, you'll likely kick yourself for not starting the process sooner.
ReplyDeleteBut it's complicated and there are so many factors to add into the equation... any time would be wonderful!
yea for number 2!
ReplyDeleteHi! I haven't commented in MONTHS, but just had to chime in... I'm in almost the exact same situation. Well diff situation (will have to do a fresh IVF cycle again), but Laney is 8 months and we're thinking about getting the ball rolling just after Laney's 1st bday. All the same questions running thru my mind. Decisions, decisions. Another thing that runs thru my mind is "geez, am I ready to start giving Laney less attention? Will I be doing her a disservice? Or Will it be SO good for her to have to share us and perhaps get less attention?" I have to say...I'm nervous about doing all the shots, etc. w/a wee one at home. It was hard enough when I was just trying to keep track of myself! Same w/being pregnant...I know everybody does it, but it must be so tiring chasing a toddler around! Good luck w/your decision! I look fwd to reading about it!
ReplyDeleteSimilar convo going on here, except that I'm 41 and have nothing on ice. So it's less about timing than about whether to try at all. But the issue is definitely out there and it's kind of crazy to think about starting everything -- the shots the appointments, etc-- again with a baby around the house.
ReplyDeleteWow no.2, so exciting! I have always thought it's better to give your body plenty of time to recover before embarking on another pregnancy - I think everything is more likely to be successful and healthy if you feel totally well. Plus I find a newborn quite a lot of work so I can't imagine doing the newborn thing and taking care of an 18 month old at the same time! But that's just my two cents! Every family is different and works in its own unique way - do what your heart tells you xx
ReplyDeleteWe're just embarking on #2! I wish I was younger, that I could take time with Davie first. I'd love to let her get to 2 before we tried again. But our insurance coverage is cut every year, and I'm already 40, so here we go again!
ReplyDeleteIt's exciting! And it's still hard. And I'm totally believing that this first try WILL be the one that works!