To pee or not to pee, that is the question.
Normally I'm all for POASing, and would begin on Friday or Saturday morning, before beta on Sunday. Yes, my beta is on Mother's Day. Ack.
Anyway, my hesitation with my normal POAS plans is my DH's travel plans. He is leaving town Thursday after work, and will be back early on Sunday (he damn well better be home before the beta phone call). I'm not too thrilled that he is gone on this important weekend. But it is what it is, and he's going.
We talked about it a few weeks back, and he asked me not to POAS without him. He asked me to promise him I wouldn't, but I couldn't fully do that. I'd said hedging kind of things like "I'll try" or "We'll see."
So, people, what would you do? I don't want to hear the results from some stranger weekend-coverage nurse first. Either way. But I'm not sure it is such a good idea to be alone for the weekend with bad news. Thoughts, suggestions?
Would you or wouldn't you?
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1 day ago
Hmmm... I would probably POAS and send Hubbie a picture text message. That way he gets to share in the excitement while he isn't there.
ReplyDeleteI don't know. It is a tough decision.
That's tough with him being out of town. I think I would compromise...is there any way to test and then call him before you look at it and then turn it over while he is on the phone with you? I'm with you, I'd rather know before beta. Our first IUI I didn't POAS and I regretted it, big time. It was awful waiting for the call.
ReplyDeleteI probably wouldn't, but it would be very difficult! I'm sure I would be dying to know, but I would want to relish in the moment with my DH. Fingers crossed for you!!!
ReplyDeleteI like to know before the call from the nurse so I can prepare myself. I would test on Saturday so if it's not the correct answer then you will have a day to process before Mother's Day. If it is the correct answer then you can send photos to DH and celebrate over the phone. I have lost all patience through this process though...
ReplyDeletecan you poas and skype him in? A compromise? don't know if i could hold out!
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I would probably wait since he specifically asked you to and he is a part of the process too. Not that it wouldn't be super difficult. I don't know. I would definitely try to work something out with him, so he doesn't feel left out.
ReplyDeleteHello, just happened upon your blog... I was going to suggest calling him before POAS and having him on the line while you do... but TeeJay's suggestion makes much more sense.
ReplyDeleteFingers crossed!
Don't do it...those evil pee sticks can be wrong and either way, you'll just torment yourself. Wait for the hubs, POAS and then pick up the VM ;-)
ReplyDeleteOy vey, a Beta on Mother's Day... that's a little crunchy.
ReplyDeleteWhile I haven't gone through it YET. I think I'd prefer to be prepared for the phone call. I say POAS after the Beta and before the phone call - you said hubby might be home then, yes?
Sending you LOTS of sticky vibes!!!
You can guess what I would say to the "what would you do?" question because you know I'm terrified to POAS. (What if it's wrong?) I believe in blood tests!
ReplyDeleteBut what do I think you should do? I think you should do what is going to give you peace, under the circumstances.
And I don't mean to sound unsympathetic toward your husband but I kind of think if he wants to be there if you decide to POAS, he should stay home. (If he has a choice about leaving town. You didn't say.)
Whatever you do, it better be a BFP. I'm going to be so bummed if it is not.
Hang in there!
Pee.
ReplyDeleteBig decision that I think each person has to make for herself. I did not POAS before the official testing at the RE. But that was just my decision because I wanted to keep hope for as long as possible that I was preggers.
ReplyDeleteI'm not going to tell you what to do because at the end of the day if you can't resist that urge to POAS then you should go for it. But if it were me.... I wouldn't do a hpt. I'd wait for the beta and make my husband PROMISE to be there in time for that call.
ReplyDeleteI would wait..but I always wait for beta.
ReplyDeleteHang in there...not much longer...
I really like TeeJay's suggestion if you can get DH to agree. Waiting for the nurse's call just sucks and I'd want to be mentally prepared.
ReplyDeleteI'm so excited for you!! Only a few more days to go!!!
PEE PEE! i always PEE i have absolutely no willpower
ReplyDeleteI would not POAS. Mostly because I would question if I did it right (BFP or BFN). I would let the call go to VM and then listen to it with your husband. Good luck and everything remains crossed for you!
ReplyDeleteI was so glad I waited till beta came back. I figured I'd either have AF or things would be good, since progesterone was never enough to keep AF away till 16-17dpo for me.
ReplyDeleteI'd said like he's requested. Leave yourself in suspense a little longer...
I decided that I didn't want to POAS (the sticks aren't as accurate as a blood sample) and I would have my husband take the call from the clinic or listen to the voicemail. I needed his support too much either way. I decided that the few extra hours wouldn't change the outcome and I wanted him to tell me not some stranger. He told me when we got a chemical and then the negative and he told me when I got the positive. I wouldn't have had it any other way.
ReplyDeleteGood luck no matter what you decide Pie. I'm rooting for you and sending lots of positive vibes.